The unusual Vedic name Satya Das is heard by many social network users, especially women. This is a well-known family psychologist, as he positions himself, who speaks about complex things in simple and understandable language with humor and irony. Along with such famous Vedic psychologists as Ruslan Narushevich, Satya organizes festivals, lectures, promotes a healthy lifestyle and a healthy approach to family and interpersonal relationships. The article will discuss the biography of Satya Das, personal life, hobbies and principles of existence.
Sathya Das was born in 1975. Biography and date of birth are unknown for certain. The real name of the guru - however, according to his admission, he does not actually use it. Only his mother and government officials remind him from time to time what his real name is. Why Satya Das? Translated from Indian it is “servant of absolute truth.” The man received this name from his spiritual teacher.
Sergei spent his childhood and youth in Ukraine; he was born in Dnepropetrovsk into a simple family. According to Satya’s recollections, his parents worked all the time, and he was forced to help them raise two brothers. In addition, there was work on the garden plot.
Judging by the information in his biography, Satya Das did not receive any special psychological education, but he admits that he is a humanitarian to the core and does not understand the exact disciplines at all. But he knows history very well, studies the ancient scriptures, has an excellent command of the language, trained as a cook and enjoys not only cooking, but also teaching special courses for women, both in Russia and abroad.
For 15 years now, the man has been a vegetarian along with his wife and son Ivan. According to his personal biography, Satya Das has been married for over 20 years. He met his future wife during his student years - they studied together in the same group.
Satya Das has been a successful lecturer since 2005. With his numerous seminars, he traveled not only throughout Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, but also part of European countries. It is admitted that it often happens in Germany and Spain. The guru has his own website, which provides detailed information about his movements throughout the year. In the summer, Satya usually organizes retreats - multi-day festivals. Often meetings take place in the fresh air, lectures are diluted with pleasant pastime - attending holidays, communication, culinary moments. Usually, with such festivals, Satya goes to Barcelona or
The most popular seminars are “The Laws of the Physics of Marriage”, “An Unboring Family Psychology”, “The Charm of Femininity”, “Men’s Club: No Snot”, “Where to Find a Soulmate”, “6 Stages of Overcoming a Crisis”, “Myself”, “ Why is a civil marriage a marriage? Most of the listeners are women, since, according to the guru, it is according to the female scenario that relationships should develop; the role of men in building relationships is negligible.
Satya's popularity is growing every year. He won the hearts of millions primarily with his simplicity and charisma. There is always a friendly atmosphere at his lectures. They are lined up as follows: first, the guru tries to answer the questions asked - someone can send them in writing, someone asks them orally. Most of the questions concern the family - how to build long-term relationships, how a woman should behave in marriage, whether she should tolerate her husband’s unworthy behavior, whether it makes sense to live with a man in a civil marriage.
Recently, seminars on child psychology and the psychology of earnings have been added to Satya’s arsenal. The guru teaches to take into account the true nature of the child: to listen to his desires, to develop strengths and not pay attention to weaknesses, to abandon kindergartens and the imposition of one’s own principles in education. Satya has a philosophical attitude towards earnings and wealth: everyone receives as much as they are entitled to from above.
© AST Publishing House LLC, 2016
© Satya Das, text, 2015
A woman's happiness is directly related to a man. Just like a man’s happiness is directly related to a woman’s. There is no such thing as being alone in this world. Men and women can live and exist only in pairs. It will not be possible to find some kind of algorithm to find happiness, but, of course, it is possible to get rid of the problems associated with ignorance.
Everyone sees happiness differently, so the art of being happy will have to be learned. The science of family happiness is not an exact science like algebra, physics or chemistry. There are, of course, some general patterns, but everyone must become a professional in their family relationships. There will be no sense until this philosophy becomes a personal philosophy - to try to pass it through yourself and make this philosophy your own is the task of every person. Only then will it help. Happiness in the material world is a temporary cessation of unhappiness. Family life is not soft drugs, but hard, exhausting work, hard, exhausting happiness that you have to work for.
There are a huge number of problems in this world that we cannot get rid of. We always strive for something, and naturally some difficulties arise along the way. It is impossible to answer all the questions, but we will try to understand the most common mistakes and intricacies of family life.
We, men and women, are drawn to each other for some unknown reason. The higher powers have arranged it in such a way that it seems more practical to live alone, but for some reason I don’t want to live like that at all. And it's not about sex at all. Not without it, of course, but that’s not the most important thing. The ancient scriptures say that a woman without a man is incomplete, just as a man is incomplete without a woman. According to one of them, only two types of living beings can live without a couple in this world - either saints or madmen. Therefore, if a person says that it is good for him to live alone, this means that he is either a saint, or crazy, or simply has not yet decided on his life.
From the dialogues:
– What does it mean when a woman says she doesn't want to get married?
– It's just that no one is calling yet.
– And when will everything change?
– When someone appears in her life.
A surprisingly strange paradox: a man and a woman are drawn to each other, but at the same time they are completely different. It is easier for any man to understand a male hamster or a male boa constrictor than a female of his own species. That is, it is generally impossible to understand a woman. The mistake is that men think: if she is also a person, then she is the same as him. But she's not like that. Men have more in common with a male boa constrictor or hamster than with a woman. The only thing that unites us, men and women, is that we belong to the same biological species. Everything else is different. Before we begin to study this great science, the first thing we must understand is that we are completely different. It's God's joke that he made us look alike: two arms, two legs.
In theory, women should have something different, or men should be different. But we are very similar.
A woman always speaks with subtext. What does this mean? In a relationship, a man must understand that a woman will always speak ambiguously, this is her nature. The combination of fears, complexes, feminine nature and softness does not allow her to speak directly. And the man speaks directly. A man must understand that if he communicates with a woman, he must achieve the maximum quality of his texts so that the woman does not find subtext in them. Therefore, the less a man says to a woman, the better for him. A woman can make something stupid out of these letters. It is better to limit yourself to some non-refutable phrases, for example: “I love you.” If a man begins to fantasize: “You are like the sun to me...”, she will begin to suspect a hidden meaning: “Did you mean spots, my freckles? There are spots in the sun..." And advice to women: don’t put subtext into your words, a man won’t understand them anyway. He needs to say everything directly.
It is very important to understand how the person with whom life has brought you works. Advice for women: if you have a crocodile in your bathroom, study the tactical and technical characteristics of the crocodile. Don't feed it cream or rub it with brushes, because it's a crocodile!
We need to understand the difference between a man and a woman. We see differently, we hear differently, we relax differently, we have sex differently, we work differently—we do everything differently. Thinking that if I understand myself well, then I can understand this living being is a big mistake. It is advisable to be able to negotiate on shore. It is clear that if you have been married for 25 years, you will have to do repairs while living in the same apartment. Therefore, it is better, of course, when everything is clear in advance.
First stage. We've all probably heard that relationships are built according to certain laws. When a relationship begins, a man is always attracted to a woman's appearance. Subconsciously, everyone understands that they need to take care of their appearance. But sometimes women fall into some kind of illusion, saying: “I will take him with my intellect.” Men always start relationships with appearance. Subconsciously, all women know this, but sometimes they neglect it. A woman should definitely spend time on this. She should not be lazy to take care of herself. Hoping that a man will start building relationships differently is a delusion. A man is always attracted to shape. But the biggest mistake is thinking that this is the only thing that attracts a man. When a man begins to build a relationship with a woman, he just wants her. Ancient scriptures say that a woman should never listen to what a man says during courtship because he is deceiving. He himself even believes a little in what he says, but he is deceiving. Because he is sick, he has a fever. There is even a myth that a man does not receive karmic consequences for his deception when he is courting a woman. Because during this period he is sick. But you can say whatever you want. A man is valuable not in words, but in deeds. That is why the courtship process must be long, so that a man can, while courting a woman, show what he really is like. If a woman simply listens to what a man says, she will most likely be deceived.
What does a woman pay attention to when a relationship begins? On intelligence. So that a man speaks well, so that he has a good head. And intelligence usually manifests itself in conversations. Is this enough to get married? Answer: no. Let’s say that if a man is courting a woman, she is very beautiful, but suddenly it turns out that she is intellectually weak. Will this stop a man at the beginning of his journey, in the process of courtship and hunting for sex? Of course not! On the contrary, it even gives the woman some bonuses. Will it stop a woman if during the courtship process it turns out that the bearer of beautiful buttocks, a gorgeous mustache and bottomless eyes is dumb as a cork? - At once! Therefore, the beginning of a relationship is always different. We, men and women, are so different that even our relationships are built differently. It feels like a man is building his own relationship, and a woman is building her own, but they sometimes intersect and synchronize.
Second phase– this is when emotional harmony arises. Because a man and a woman, when communicating, come into emotional contact with each other, as a result of which certain emotional attachments arise. Partners show certain emotions and carefully look to see if they like it. A woman may turn out to be beautiful, but the emotions that she provokes can drive a man to his grave right away. Or, conversely, a man expresses to a woman some emotion that the woman is not ready to accept.
Third stage– This is the stage when relationships are built. A man begins to be interested in a woman's intelligence. How quickly does sexual harmony arise between a man and a woman? In the first second it becomes clear whether there is harmony or not. If a woman is sexually attractive, this means that you can start courting her. That's it, a man doesn't need anything else. He looks after, looks after, and if sex happens, it means that there is just a sexual connection left, nothing more. There is no point in continuing to build relationships, to study the inner world of a woman, when sex has already happened. Does a man ever think about getting married? Of course it doesn't happen. But the woman wants to transform this into a happy marriage, and this is almost impossible. Because there is no harmony. Harmony occurs at the third level - at the level of intellect, after appearance and emotions. A man communicates with a woman for a long time, he becomes interested in what is in her head, how she sees the world, what she likes, what she doesn’t like, what she watches, what she reads, etc. And only at this level, when it passes for about six months, a woman looks at a man and understands whether she likes him or doesn’t like him physically. Until this moment, she still does not understand this. It’s correct when a woman begins to be interested in a man after about six months of his courtship. If a woman falls in love right away, this is a sign of an inferiority complex. This means that she hasn’t had anyone for a long time, she invented happiness for herself, and this is a sign that the relationship has gone in a very dangerous direction. A woman should start liking a man when he has already shown that he is a worthy person. Only after this does spiritual harmony arise. For harmony to arise, a man must listen carefully to a woman, because what a woman says is important. No matter what she does, a woman should not be judged by her deeds. You just need to find out what's in her head. You just need to listen carefully, and she will tell you everything honestly. What the woman says is true. And with her deeds she can deceive: cook, wash, come to change clothes, take care of his pet. This is all called a trick to tie a man with comfort. Women often do this.
Fourth stage. After harmony comes engagement, then wedding, and then perhaps sex. We say that men and women are different, and the issue of difference in sex is simply colossal. Modern society positions a man and a woman simply as two identical partners. But suddenly it turns out that this is not so. This is a lie. Sex is different for men and women. For a man, sex is simple movements. For a man, it doesn’t make much difference whether there is a woman at all. He himself is important, and everything else is an entourage. It’s good if there is a woman, but if she isn’t there, it’s also not a big deal. You don’t need to build very deep relationships to do this. For a man, this will be real sex, it will be obvious, because for a man everything is very simple and obvious. For a woman, sex is maximum openness, it is the most well-built relationship when a woman can trust a man to open up completely emotionally. It is very difficult to build this. I want to believe that it is possible.
We hooked on emotions, bodily harmony and intellect. Many women think that you need to have a higher education in order to talk about something with a man. A man is not interested in a woman’s education, but in what she knows in general. He probably won't talk to her about anything at all. What he wants to talk about, he will discuss with friends - football, cars, politics, etc. And with a woman, a man can talk about three topics:
1. she pooped beautiful, how he loves her;
2. what he did for her;
3. what he is going to do for her.
All conversations between a man and a woman are invested in these three positions.
If there is a need to talk with someone on various topics, a woman should have a lot of characters in her life - girlfriends, friends, like-minded people. A man is a kind of vitamin, very valuable, but it is limited. It has its own function, it has its own purpose, but it cannot go beyond its functionality. He will never replace a woman’s girlfriends, friends, parents, etc. A man is valuable for certain purposes. But a woman can tell her man everything, but not right away.
From the dialogues:
– Are we now talking about the relationship between a man and a woman in marriage?
– What's the difference?
– When people just met, the husband does not yet love this woman, he cannot tell her about his love.
– A husband will never communicate with a woman if she is sexually unattractive to him.
– When people start dating, can they talk about anything? Or can only a woman talk about anything, and her husband should tell her how beautiful she is and what he is ready to do for her?
– What else can he talk to her about?
– On some abstract topics.
– Which ones?
– About travel, for example. Where he traveled, what he saw, etc.
– Yes, the woman should not care where he traveled. A man should ask about where she wants to go traveling. A woman will be interested in someone who is interested in her.
– If a man and a woman have recently met, he tries to choose a topic that interests her, that is, it turns out that he pleases her, speaks to please her? Wouldn't he look like a buffoon in such a situation?
– We mean opening the heart. In the family, you also need to talk only about these three topics, but this does not mean that the husband will never ask his wife where his socks are.
– What if I'm interested?
– That's what the Internet is for.
Our goal, like all people, is to build relationships. A man should be interested in a woman. Often a man is forced to babble because a woman is sometimes “stupid”, she has the partisan syndrome - “decent girls are silent.” And he would love to ask her a question, but maybe he doesn’t know how. In order to “talk” to a woman, you need to ask questions, that is, take risks, delve into your soul, ask about something, and then listen carefully. The risk is that he may not be interested in what she has to say. Communicating on abstract topics is often easier. He sits and tells her about tanks, and she sits and listens. This is very safe, because no one will hurt anyone. A woman must learn to open up and speak up to demonstrate her intelligence. But in this case, we must not forget about the principles of love marketing - at the initial stage, you should never talk about problems. After about seven months, you can start telling the man a little about your problems, giving him the opportunity to participate in these problems. That is, tossing in a little bit of topics for exploits.
From the dialogues:
– We discuss spiritual topics, but for some reason I talk, and he simply agrees, but doesn’t say anything about himself. Should he open his heart or not?
– For what?
– To get even closer.
– If a man wanted to share some spiritual experiences, he would share. Perhaps he shares it with someone.
After all, spiritual experiences and plans for the implementation of ideas are shared with those who are stronger and more spiritually advanced. That is, the one who is older in status. The woman in the family has the status of junior. She is more dependent, she is protected. It is possible that it will be very difficult for a woman to listen to her husband’s spiritual torment. He should lead his woman to God, and not talk about his difficulties. And spiritual experiences are usually associated with difficulties. Spiritual life is hard work.
From the dialogues:
– You have to tell him directly that you don't like it.
– My boyfriend and I are now in the third stage. We had a conversation about vegetarianism. I am a vegetarian, and he knows that I feel bad when he eats meat. I told him about this. He says: “If it’s so important to you, I’m ready to become a vegetarian.” But for some reason this is not enough for me.
– Because he is just ready or has he already moved on?
– No, because I want him to want it himself, and not because I asked him to.
– A man will never do anything for himself. In this case, it is his conscious decision. He wants to do this for you. If he wants to do it, let him do it. A man wants to do something for you, appreciate it and thank him.
– You say that a man should not be allowed to treat himself badly. Does this apply to work? If a man treats his female colleague unworthily, should he not allow himself to be treated that way?
– A woman must learn to stop boors. There is no need to communicate with him. Only for work. There is no need to smile at him, greet him, chip in for his birthday, go to visit him, drink coffee with him, etc.
– I asked my friend to talk to him, he did. After that we had a tense atmosphere at work.
– So, tell your friend to explain everything to your colleague again. It’s good that there is such a friend and you can turn to him. You wanted to shut up this boor - he shut up. A woman should be protected and should not be afraid to seek help. She gets married so that her husband will protect her from all sorts of scum. And boors must be punished. Let him leave work. You have a man who protects you, and that's great!
– My friend's husband was brought up in a family where his father abused his mother, and now he behaves the same way towards her. She is offended, but he sincerely does not understand that he has offended her in some way.
– Did she explain it to him?
– Yes, I explained. He just doesn't take her grievances seriously.
– Why is she living with this man?
– They have a child together.
– What can I do? She lives with the man who got her pregnant. Doing renovations in the house you live in, – very hard. Relationships that were built incorrectly at the initial stage lead to the need to rebuild everything in the process.
– You said that a man should lead his family to God. Firstly, what does this mean? And secondly, is there a chance even for the most deeply convinced atheist to convert to God?
– There's no chance. A “deeply convinced atheist” is convinced of what? He simply doesn't have the information. An atheist is simply an uninformed person. God has a colossal resource of turning a deeply convinced atheist into a deeply religious person in one second. There are four types of people who cease to be deeply convinced atheists:
– suffering;
– people in need;
– inquisitive;
– seeking absolute truth.
It all starts with the first and second types. Therefore, it will either come through reason or through suffering. God can convince through poverty and through pain. Both work.
– What does it mean to lead a family to God?
– To lead a family to God, you need to know:
who is God;
how to get to it;
why go to him?
These are motives for serious spiritual practice. A deeply convinced atheist will not do this. If a man himself does not go to God, then how can he bring his family to him?
– Can a woman lead a man to God?
– A woman can inspire a man to engage in spiritual practices, but she will not lead him to God. Spiritual practice is the practice of the soul, not the body. Therefore, a woman needs to engage in her spiritual practice and, perhaps, her husband, being next to her, will also be interested in this. To make a man run in the morning, you need to start running in the morning yourself. This does not mean that in this way you can make him an Olympic champion, but you can inspire him to want to start doing something.
– Is it possible to kiss a young man before marriage?
– There is a woman and a man. That he wants to kiss an attractive woman – This is fine. What happens after you start kissing him?
Of course not. A man builds relationships in stages. If a woman allows him to kiss her on the cheek today, he considers this a milestone achieved; tomorrow he will touch her gums. Why rush?
– If a man and a woman get married, but during sexual contact the woman does not even like the way the man kisses, she is simply disgusted by him. What should she do?
– That is, for a year and a half he courted, talked, and they started kissing - he became disgusted!
– Physically unpleasant.
– Did it only become clear during the kiss?
– Yes, and what followed.
– It doesn't happen that way. It seems to me that you are disingenuous. I feel like there's some kind of catch. Perhaps I should have danced with him, taken his hand, and everything would have become clear. For example, I almost immediately understand perfectly well whether a person is disgusting to me or not. It is enough to sit next to each other, communicate, talk. It can’t be that everything was fine, but when I touched it, it became disgusting.
– The scriptures say that a man must necessarily be older than a woman. Is this really true?
– A man must be stronger. A woman must trust a man. And it’s easier for a woman to trust someone who is older and stronger. A man may be younger, but he must be stronger. He should be the one she goes after. In most cases, when a man is older, it is much easier for a woman to trust him. If he is younger, he will have to make enormous efforts to get her to trust him. The main thing is that the man is morally stronger.
– The former young man has not let go of the girl for quite a long time. They are no longer together, but he still works on himself and tries to look after her. But the girl doesn’t know how to feel about this. Is she ready to consider this person as a potential companion in the future?
– The mistake of any girl is to consider someone as a potential companion. It doesn't matter whether he's ex or not. You can always accept advances. It is very important to learn not to be indebted. After all, a woman is afraid to accept advances because it seems to her that she will be obliged to something. It's up to you to decide how much you tolerate this relationship. If you don’t know how to build a distance, it means that you are scared and want to communicate with those who seem safer. These are the consequences of precisely the fact that a woman does not know how to say “no.”
Satya Das
Woman and her divine nature
© AST Publishing House LLC, 2016
© Satya Das, text, 2015
* * *Introduction
A woman's happiness is directly related to a man. Just like a man’s happiness is directly related to a woman’s. There is no such thing as being alone in this world. Men and women can live and exist only in pairs. It will not be possible to find some kind of algorithm to find happiness, but, of course, it is possible to get rid of the problems associated with ignorance.
Everyone sees happiness differently, so the art of being happy will have to be learned. The science of family happiness is not an exact science like algebra, physics or chemistry. There are, of course, some general patterns, but everyone must become a professional in their family relationships. There will be no sense until this philosophy becomes a personal philosophy - to try to pass it through yourself and make this philosophy your own is the task of every person. Only then will it help. Happiness in the material world is a temporary cessation of unhappiness. Family life is not soft drugs, but hard, exhausting work, hard, exhausting happiness that you have to work for.
There are a huge number of problems in this world that we cannot get rid of. We always strive for something, and naturally some difficulties arise along the way. It is impossible to answer all the questions, but we will try to understand the most common mistakes and intricacies of family life.
Woman and her nature
Myths about men and women
We, men and women, are drawn to each other for some unknown reason. The higher powers have arranged it in such a way that it seems more practical to live alone, but for some reason I don’t want to live like that at all. And it's not about sex at all. Not without it, of course, but that’s not the most important thing. The ancient scriptures say that a woman without a man is incomplete, just as a man is incomplete without a woman. According to one of them, only two types of living beings can live without a couple in this world - either saints or madmen. Therefore, if a person says that it is good for him to live alone, this means that he is either a saint, or crazy, or simply has not yet decided on his life.
From the dialogues:
– What does it mean when a woman says she doesn't want to get married?
– It's just that no one is calling yet.
– And when will everything change?
– When someone appears in her life.
A surprisingly strange paradox: a man and a woman are drawn to each other, but at the same time they are completely different. It is easier for any man to understand a male hamster or a male boa constrictor than a female of his own species. That is, it is generally impossible to understand a woman. The mistake is that men think: if she is also a person, then she is the same as him. But she's not like that. Men have more in common with a male boa constrictor or hamster than with a woman. The only thing that unites us, men and women, is that we belong to the same biological species. Everything else is different. Before we begin to study this great science, the first thing we must understand is that we are completely different. It's God's joke that he made us look alike: two arms, two legs. In theory, women should have something different, or men should be different. But we are very similar.
A woman always speaks with subtext. What does this mean? In a relationship, a man must understand that a woman will always speak ambiguously, this is her nature. The combination of fears, complexes, feminine nature and softness does not allow her to speak directly. And the man speaks directly. A man must understand that if he communicates with a woman, he must achieve the maximum quality of his texts so that the woman does not find subtext in them. Therefore, the less a man says to a woman, the better for him. A woman can make something stupid out of these letters. It is better to limit yourself to some non-refutable phrases, for example: “I love you.” If a man begins to fantasize: “You are like the sun to me...”, she will begin to suspect a hidden meaning: “Did you mean spots, my freckles? There are spots in the sun..." And advice to women: don’t put subtext into your words, a man won’t understand them anyway. He needs to say everything directly.
After Satya’s lectures, I want to live and change. His thoughts inspire and help thousands of people. Many women found their true happiness and found a way out of difficult situations precisely after listening to his lectures. Read the three golden rules from Satya:
I would like to give you an example of a story about a bouquet of buttercups: A certain man falls in love with a woman from high society. He sends her a bouquet of inexpensive flowers. She is indignant: “What does he allow himself, how dare he!” The woman rejects him. She is indignant all day long. And the next morning they bring another bouquet. She again swears that this is unacceptable. The next morning they bring another bouquet, she is less indignant. Well, how much can you be indignant? She looks closely and thinks: “Wow, he’s sending flowers.” On the seventh day she simply accepts the flowers and says: “What a persistent one!” After two weeks she already feels good. This goes on for several months. And at some point the flowers don’t come, the woman is hysterical: "He doesn't like me anymore."
A man, with his persistence and correct, dignified behavior, wins a woman’s heart. He has the right to court a woman, regardless of whether she likes him or not. A woman falls in love gradually. And if a man does everything right, then the woman begins to melt. She has no reason not to accept his attention.
A woman must accept what is given to her in a dignified manner.
Many people ask me about the line between gifts for which they owe something and a gift that can be taken for nothing. You just have to feel when something is meant. Take a cup of coffee first, then a bouquet of flowers, then a ring and watch. If the result is the same, then you can accept it. And if after a cup of coffee you are groped all over in the toilet, what will happen if they give you a ring? Run away from this.
People ask me, how can you give a slap when you think: “Maybe this is the last chance”? This means self-esteem is nowhere lower. Isn't it scary to marry someone like that? If there is any disrespect, a woman must end the relationship.
If you end the relationship, then a not hopeless man will think, but you don’t need a hopeless one. This is his problem. You don't care about him. A man improves through painful experiences and unhappy love.
Dating means receiving attention, courtship, and care. A woman can accept this from an infinite number of people, if, of course, she organizes everything correctly. Who's stopping you? How you behave is how you are treated. When a woman has many fans, she is a star. And it is right. And then there will be no problems and there will be no need to pretend to be anything. You accept from one, from another.
If one of them begins to drive a blizzard, then say: “Felix, you have no place in the club of worthy men, I would not like to communicate with you,” and go to Albert on a date. If Albert behaves unworthily, he joins the ranks of the Felixes. Women should not allow poachers who want everything at once. These must be licensed fishermen. Don't be afraid to refuse and reject if something doesn't suit you.
All kinds of men appear in a woman’s life by the grace of God to reveal their best qualities so that they become noticeable to other men who come later. Some relationships exist to take a woman to a higher level of relationship.
I once conducted a seminar in Kyiv. There was one lady there, not a beauty, but very sweet. And she tells me:
“You say that there should be a lot of suitors, but I don’t have any at all.”
I ask her:
– Who do you communicate with?
- Yes, I have a lot of male friends. Mom asks me when I will find a man. I do not know.
- What are you doing?
- Yes, we go to the cinema, to the cafe.
- Do they tell you anything?
– Yes, they say I’m beautiful and give me gifts.
- Do they bother you?
- Yes, they pester me, and I say: “Fuck you.” You are friends."
- Sunny, you have a lot of suitors.
- What do you mean, they’re friends.
- It doesn’t happen like that. A man cannot be friends with a woman if he is not attracted to her. If he is friends, it means he hopes for something. Friendship is either past lovers or future ones. There is no other way. If a man is just friends with a woman, he is attracted to her.
It is very good for a woman when she does not see potential suitors in her suitors and does not sleep with them. A woman should feel happy even without a close relationship with a man. When she realizes that she is happy, it's time to start a relationship.
It was men who deceived the woman and introduced a standard of sex. Already on the first date, they dream of getting a woman into bed. And women think that if sex happens, she will be able to tie a man to her. But in fact, for a man, sex is the sexual act itself, and for a woman, sex is much broader - it’s words, declarations of love, hugs, gifts, treats, etc.
Dating and sleeping are two different things. A worthy woman understands this well. To meet is to receive attention, courtship, care. If a man is not happy with this, then he is not our man.
If sexual relations began before a man was able to make friends with a woman, before he asked about her interests, about her life principles, then they will never interest him.
Sexual relationships should be built according to women's desires. Physiologically, a man can have sex only when he wants. And a woman at any time, even if she doesn’t want to. She can pretend to enjoy the process, but she herself can think about when it will end.
But if a man is not stupid and waits for a special period when a woman’s libido awakens, he will then walk around in ecstasy for a month. Therefore, if a man wants sex, he must make the woman want it. Such sexual relationships make life and relationships harmonious and fill with energy. And if it’s just like that, in passing, without paying attention to the woman’s condition, then the energy will go away and be depleted. A woman is not Aladdin's lamp. If you rub it in the right place, it won't make you happy. No. The intimate side needs to be studied.
Man. Every time a man gives in, he grows. This is a definite lesson for him. But every time a woman gives in, contrary to her happiness, her principles, her purity, she begins to degrade.
One of my clients writes: “He is so good, successful, works well, but everything tells me against the grain. Should I marry him? You need to listen to your heart. Is he the only one so successful? Successful to “I can’t”? There are not few men, there are many of them.
For women, a frivolous attitude towards sex is dangerous. Sex should be taken extremely seriously. And in the modern world, the presence of uncomplicated women and irresponsible men has led to the fact that sex has turned into gymnastics. Nice gymnastics, but nothing more. Often sex is not even a reason for dating. Some say that it is important for a woman’s health: without it, she will get sick and die - this is ignorance!
I once taught cooking classes. Women acquaintances gathered there. They talked and I knew everything about them. And at some point it turned out that out of twenty women, none had an attachment to sex. A woman doesn't really need sex.
For the sake of sex, a man is ready for marriage, and a woman is ready for sex for the sake of marriage. If a man wants sex with a woman, he must be ready to accept responsibility for all the emotions that the woman has accumulated since childhood and in general in her past life.
There is nothing that could oblige a woman to act according to a man’s script. If it doesn’t work, then repeat: “I swear not to get acquainted with men who seem like potential husbands to me.”
A woman should build relationships with her head held high, without fawning or begging for anything. Remember, she should communicate with those who increase her self-esteem. As soon as she sees the wrong attitude towards herself, she should stop communicating and receive it elsewhere.
Indicator of a woman's high self-esteem in thought: “I build relationships. I play, not me."
Previously, society, traditions, and parents protected women. She could not communicate freely with a man, otherwise she would not be protected. Therefore, a man, before receiving anything, had to prove himself. In the modern world there is no such protection; it remains only in traditional societies, to which you and I do not belong.
Therefore, for a man to prove himself, a woman needs to accept advances from several candidates so that competition arises. The courtship of three men is protection and a guarantee for a woman not to fall into an unwanted relationship.
And falling in love for a woman is sacred. But she should not immediately rush headlong into the pool of feelings. She simply accepts advances and chooses the best one. All men who compete for a woman should know this. The fear of losing a man becomes the main weapon for manipulating a woman.
By letting a large number of men court her, a woman gets rid of this fear and reveals her best qualities, which she sometimes didn’t even know about.
Many women will object - this cannot be done with men, they cannot live in abstinence, they must be “encouraged.” What difference does it make to you?! Do you work for a sexual relief service? Let him decide his own issues.
The more a man abstains, the better his brain works. Because the seed and the brain are made of the same substances. When a man loses less semen, his brain functions better.
This is a lack of affection, sweets, clothes, pleasant chores, the hand of a loved one, his hugs and kisses. This destroys and ages a woman. And we're not talking about sex at all. Real emotions are transmitted from heart to heart.
Imagine that you went to a store, tried on twenty dresses, but bought only one. You bought it - you chose the best, the one that fits in size and beautifully emphasizes your figure. Will you be sad that the others didn't fit in? No. Why do you need a dress that turns your figure into a sack of potatoes?
If a woman next to a man works on herself, tries to be better, then this is not her man.
So this man simply doesn’t suit you, although he may have been handsome at first glance. But you choose something else. It didn't suit you - the next one will. Of course, if you put all your eggs in one basket and think: “If he leaves now, I’ll cut my veins, douse myself with gasoline and set it on fire.”, then there is cause for concern.
So, a woman does not need to pretend to be something, thank her, try to please and become better, she just needs to get rid of masculine qualities: habits, conversations, clothes, hairstyle. The more she gets rid of it, the easier it will be for her. And everything else will come on its own. Only masculine qualities prevent a woman from being happy.
